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I’ve been in denial my entire life about this but it’s becoming more and more clear that I have this fear of being successful. I always stay low key in my job, I bounce from hobby to hobby, once I start making real strides in something I abandon it, I never chose a direction in school, i stayed away from getting involved with school and church, and generally i tend to shy away from the amazing opportunities that come my way. Could this fear stem from a deeper root? Could this be a deeper fear of failing? Without fully admitting it to myself this year I have been focused on trying to accept opportunities as they come by me, but I find this difficult most times. In fact, if it wasn’t for others pushing me to go forward with something, I would never move. So how can I go about getting out of this rut. What causes this intense fear of being successful. Has anyone else discovered this fear in themselves? If you have I’d like to hear your thoughts and what you did, if anything, to change it.


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 Have you ever seen the movie anger management? If you haven’t I suggest you do. Just in case, here’s a little snippet of the movie that poses a very important question.
As a brief background, Adam Sandler plays a character named Dave. The plot takes us to a place in the movie where Dave is put in anger management. He goes to his first meeting and Dr. Buddy, Jack Nicholson, is the instructor. Buddy starts the group by asking Dave this question,
Maybe you don’t even realize it, but maybe the perception you have of yourself is a similar one. It’s natural to use something exciting, life-changing, or even a daily routine we have in life to shape who we are. Many experiences, good and bad, have shaped who I am today. My job shapes who I am today. The people around me have shaped who I am today. My life decisions have shaped who I am today. But is it who I am?
I will admit, I was a little annoyed at this scene the first time I watched the movie. I thought that surely, Dave was answering correctly and Buddy was just pushing his buttons. Maybe Buddy was pushing Dave a little, but for good reason. If you have never really sat down and asked yourself this question, I think your natural response would be something like Dave’s. “I am a teacher, a mechanic, a mom, a husband, a good person, I like to ride my bike, I collect clocks, etc…” But Buddy is on to something here. It is worth the time it takes to quiet your mind and re-evaluate the perception you have of who you are.
How would you answer this question?

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